How Do White Women Feel About White Men Dating African Americans?

When I was a young man, many many many years ago, interracial dating was frowned upon. The white girls involved - generally, though certainly not always - were perceived as a little flaky, craving attention, or needing to stick it to their parents. I confess that I would have had trouble dating a girl who had been in a relationship with a black man because in my mind it would have called into question her judgement and emotional maturity.

But people work together... And fall in love. People join organizations together... And fall in love. People go to church together... And fall in love. Still, even today a decision that involves an interracial marriage would surely involve sobering questions.

But there is no inertia like that of the heart.

I worked with, was pursued by, and subsequently dated a young girl from the Philippines who had oodles of character... Who loved God... Loved America... And loved me for a while. She ended up dumping me, which I believe speaks volumes about her superior judgement. :) But my family loved her. My mother coveted her.

If she had been a native of Zimbabwe with the same personality and character, I believe my family's enthusiasm might have been more guarded... For about five seconds. But if she had been African American... I believe there may have been concern.

It would be a cultural, not a racial matter in my family.

So how do white women feel about the subject? I found these quotes by black women:

"Many white women have just as much of a problem with white men having black women on their arms as some black women do when they see black men with white women. The only difference is that white women are a little less vocal about it. I know because I have dated several white men, and the evil stares and snide remarks from white women that I have received, out-number those even from black men."

"I keep hearing other black women complain about not being able to find a good working, responsible black man yet I hear other people like yourself saying that their are plenty of them, but black women are really only looking for the black bad boys. Do you actually think black women want the bad boys and not the secure men?"

Times have changed. Or have they?

Today, I believe an interracial couple invites a scrutiny that may not be fair. But I believe the acceptance and approval of the couple is generally contingent only upon their character, attitude, and behavior.

Anyway, for some reason I find the subject fascinating.